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One user explains that some people are exceptionally skilled in handling their relationships, able to navigate arguments and resolve them without causing unnecessary emotional turmoil. They write, "some people have incredible communication skills when it comes to handling conflicts. They know exactly how to communicate to avoid their partner's emotions and solve the real problems between the two. It's not that they don't have emotions; it's just that they know how to control them."

Another user shares her experience with partners who lack emotional intelligence, stating, "when I tell a partner I don't like them shouting at me and they take it too seriously, not saying a word to me afterwards and acting cold, I really feel disheartened. You can't help but share some of your life with them, but they act like they're just reporting to their supervisor. Sometimes, they even misinterpret what you're saying, as if they can't really grasp the essence of your expression. It's not that I have a problem, but it's related to their ability."

The discussion on love as a skill does not end there, as users also share their perspectives on what romantic partners should bring to the table. One user suggests that the greatest ability to have in a close relationship is the ability to let go and let love flow. They write, "some people just know how to make your heart melt with their charm and kindness. They can sense what makes you happy and sad and know just how to comfort you. Not by simply saying 'don't be mad,' but by really understanding what's going on with you."

However, there are also those who feel that relationships are not just about one's ability to connect with another person, but about finding a true friend. One user writes, "I think my approach to relationships is more like finding a good friend. But there are always some people who like to manipulate their partners into submission. They discreetly manipulate their partners into doing what they want during their interactions."

Another user shares her frustration with finding a partner who has the right set of emotional skills, lamenting, "I really think I'm running into a lack of people who have the right emotional abilities. I'm not single because I want to be, but because finding the right person seems really difficult. It seems like people with emotional intelligence are really rare."

The discussions on Weibo about love being a skill have sparked a wave of introspection, with some users admitting their own lack of certain emotional abilities. One user writes, "after reading all these posts, I feel like I don't have that 'right timing' when it comes to love. I'm always a step behind when it comes to expressing my feelings or understanding my partner's needs."